The year will be 2013 What are you changing?

**c2shair** · 12-21-2012, 10:29 PM

I am being laid off so I will change careers.

I am giving up meat (will eat seafood and work on giving that up as well).

I am think about locking so I may be giving up my loose naps (loose inspiration threads keeping me loose).

What are you changing, giving up or modifying in 2013?

**Intellexual** · 12-21-2012, 11:38 PM

I'm looking forward to (at least) a seven day juice fast in '13. I think I picked up my first juicer earlier this month. I want to get a different one for non-leafy produce and practice keeping up my dietary fiber and caloric intake (before I set down into a fast).

I have an eye on adding Spanish lessons into my daily, relocking my hair, and traveling off of the Coast. I haven't been off the East Coast thus far and look forward to staycationing further west.

**tjolims** · 12-21-2012, 11:43 PM

I'm moving countries again, so with that comes a whole host of new stuff...I'm not even really sure what tbh.

**Micheli** · 12-21-2012, 11:50 PM

Losing weight. I'm giving myself the ENTIRE year to do so. I figure 2lbs a month should get me where I want to be and I won't have to starve. Anything else I accomplish is gravy.

**c2shair** · 12-24-2012, 01:05 AM

So far it's going to be an interesting year.

**luvfaithfully** · 12-24-2012, 01:53 AM

I really want to become less angry. I want to start meditating.

**LBellatrix** · 12-24-2012, 12:24 PM

Originally Posted by luvfaithfully

I really want to become less angry. I want to start meditating.

I was going to wait before commenting on any threads this morning because I have a lot of stuff to do and I tend to run on

but as soon as I saw this I was like *gasp* me too me toooo!!

First and foremost I want to spend 2013 getting back in touch with my spiritual self in general. I'm dealing with a lot of anger as well and it's caused me to distance myself from a lot of people I used to call friends. Meditation has been calling me for a long time now.

I quit my job earlier this month (due to many reasons but anger and frustration are 2 big ones). I have a side gig but it won't cover my expenses by itself so 2013 will also be about me getting my hustle on. I had the choice of going into yet another "standard" job or turning my best energies towards finishing my novel and doing freelance work on the side; I've chosen the road less traveled and for once in my life I'm going to try to stick to it despite the risks. In certain ways I still tend to play it safe and doing so just hasn't gotten me where I want to be.

I will be moving out of Iowa in 2013. As of right now I've got a tentative plan in place but I won't discuss it until it's closer to fruition.

Relationship-wise I need to reconnect with my true support network. I'm also done being the token black friend

again there are several emotions at work here which I won't go into...

Health-wise I'm going back to eating mostly-paleo and doing as much exercise (walking, biking, plus yoga and other stuff I can do at home) as possible. I refuse to believe I have to have a damn gym membership to stay in shape.

Finally, because this is the hair forum

I'm shooting to spend at least half, and ideally three-quarters, of 2013 in protective styles.

**afroknots11412** · 12-24-2012, 03:29 PM

a lot of things....

but mainly my health and well being. i want to release this weight and keep it off. adopt a healthier lifestyle all the way around.

get my career started. and start saving.

preparing to move out of the 20s and into my dirty thirties. lol.

just get my ish together. period.

**AStone** · 12-24-2012, 04:55 PM

Drink 1.5l of water per day.

Leave my hair alone for most of the year

Eat a serving of fruits and veggies per day.

Start a light work out routine

**Earthen~Blossom** · 12-25-2012, 06:23 PM

healthier eating

more meditation

regular spa/relaxation activities

smarter spending

devoting my energy towards positive, fulfilling friendships and relationships; superficial friendships and relationships drain me, as do complicated ones

basically, working on living more holistically and taking good care of myself

**bhop13** · 12-26-2012, 12:30 AM

so many things...

spending habits
my career and living situation
search out something spiritual to keep me grounded
visit visit and more visiting!
more family outings or at least reaching out to them more.

**gilroygal** · 12-26-2012, 02:58 AM

DEFINITELY spend wisely!
Continue on my current health regime and maintain my 12 lb weight loss and perhaps add to that.
NOT experiment with ANY hair products because I KNOW what works and CANNOT afford to have any scalp setbacks.
Build a fairly timeless, high quality wardrobe that I will NOT have to dispose of in a year.

**CinnamonBiscuit** · 12-26-2012, 04:02 AM

I hope to give up being poor, to have a job with nice pay.

Stay consistent with exercise. I already work out, but I go through spells of not doing it at all.

I'm working on my temper; not getting so ticked off and not being so bothered by stuff.

I intend to start paying on my student debt.

I'd also like to start changing how I dress. I've been wearing the same clothing for years; maybe keeping the same clothing is in some way subconsciously keeping me from moving forward in life the way I want.

**luvbear** · 12-28-2012, 06:24 PM

maintaining my anger
not sweating the smalll stuff
handling business at the job
maintain my weight
helping my locs flurish along with my sprituality

**Intellexual** · 12-31-2012, 05:45 AM

I've honed in on the introductory ten day Vipassana Meditation course for my next working vacation. The movie I mentioned in the second thread is Dhamma Brothers, The (2008). It's free to watch with limited commercial interruptions on Hulu (title hyperlinked above). I watched it again yesterday on Netflix.

How Exactly Do You Meditate? (Spirituality & Philosophy, Sept. 2006)
Meditation can reduce death, heart attack and stroke in heart patients?? (News Stories, Nov. 2012)

**KreativeKoils** · 12-31-2012, 07:05 AM

I want to try and get myself on a schedule, and learn how to stick to things. That is my worst quality, and since the world didn't end, I'd like to become a better person. I want to get a job, get back to school, and lose a bunch of weight. I want to become the me that I dream of being, if I'm not being to much of a poetic sap...

**mramsey** · 12-31-2012, 06:34 PM

I will use the word "NO" alot more this year

Can you cover so and so's shift? NO
Can i borrow some money? NO
Can i borrow one of your cars? NO
Do you want to hang out and drink? (which stopped being fun 20 years ago? NO

Ya"ll get the jist...Folks are really gonna hate me this year....No more Mister Nice Guy..

**thePerfectFool** · 12-31-2012, 07:23 PM

~Actually use my planner so I can keep up with what's going on
~Work on being more patient
~Pick a bible reading plan and stick to it
~Settle on a budget and stick to it (not likely

)
~Start eating healthier
~And lastly, take better care of my hair. I've been past shoulder length before, and i'm gonna get there again dangit!

**MommieDearest** · 01-01-2013, 01:40 PM

Get my house in order. Literally. The clutter and unfinished projects are stifling my spirit.

Be a better mother, wife, sister, friend.

Do more ministry/community service/volunteering.

Publish my first book (I'm halfway there- YAY!) and start writing my second.

Get a side hustle.

Take better care of my hair. I got a professional trim 2 weeks ago, for the first time in almost 2 years, and my hair is still thanking me for it.

**Dovechild20** · 01-01-2013, 08:06 PM

This year, im not thinking in terms of what i want to change, per se, but I think ima follow this chick and go after the feelings I want to keep (cause thas ultimately what goals are, achieving something that will give us the feeling we want, i.e. pride, comfort, fulfillment, joy, stillness, etc).

Anywho, the feelings I want to cultivate and achieve this year are:
empowered
alive
bold
unstoppable
prosperous
strong
abundant
divinely feminine
beautiful
nourished
free