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ihgemini
02-05-2003, 06:34 PM
Blessings,
What does anyone feel about "Single Ministries"? Are they nothing but glorified dating services within the church?

Sasha
02-05-2003, 06:55 PM
Most of the singles ministries in the churches that I have been a part of try to teach Christians that its okay to be single. I don't feel that it could be anyway related to a dating services of any kind. But that just my opinion. :)

NaturalSkeeWee
02-05-2003, 08:10 PM
Singles ministries are there to help single men and women do greater works for the Lord by serving. I was a praise team singer for our singles ministry for 2 years. One thing that I learned in the ministry was that the Lord really needs singles to step up and do more. Singles are very important to ministry because we don’t have a “household” if you will to devote a lot of time too. I never went to any of our singles meetings or outings looking for dates it was strictly to hear the word and serve. I am married now :angel: but I enjoyed my time serving in that ministry.

ihgemini
02-05-2003, 08:42 PM
Blessings,
Sounds like you to have had positive experienced with your ministries.

The reason I was asking the question was because I was invited to a masquarade ball for Valentine's Day, and the church's ministry was sponsoring the event. One of the tag lines was to come out and see the premier men and women of the church. That sounds like the same setting one would find at a cabaret, and the fact that it is held at a hotel??????

tjolims
02-05-2003, 10:07 PM
I don't know...all the singles ministries I've been to have basically been Christian dating services...and I've never been to a church where they've said it's okay to be single. Those of you who have been to places that do are very blessed.

musicalk
02-05-2003, 10:13 PM
Before I was married, I was very active in the Singles Ministry. At my church it was clearly a special blessing to be a single steward for the Lord. Being single can be an asset to live a full life. We celebrated the works of Jesus as the utmost single of all. It may have been that particular congregation or your interpretation. :)

musicalk
02-05-2003, 10:13 PM
Before I was married, I was very active in the Singles Ministry. At my church it was clearly a special blessing to be a single steward for the Lord. Being single can be an asset to live a full life. We celebrated the works of Jesus as the utmost single of all. It may have been that particular congregation or your interpretation. :)

NaturalSkeeWee
02-06-2003, 02:17 PM
Churches really need to put singles in perspective. If a church is feeding singles to come to the singles ministry to get hooked up then that is sending the wrong message and singles will have a warped sense of what being a Christian single is really about. Again it is about service. I don't see anything wrong with going to a party with other singles even if its off site but is someone going to preach the word, what is the theme message of the evening. There is nothing wrong with the party but if it is perpetuating a sense or spirit of sexual tension or come and hook up with a single then that is out of order.
FYI...Some good teachings on being single are by: Bishop T.D. Jakes, Juanita Bynum-Weeks, Michelle McKinney Hammond and Bishop Eddie Long. Be blessed :lilangel:

ihgemini
02-06-2003, 04:04 PM
Blessings,
Thanks for the replies ladies!

I don't think I'm going to the party anyway because I really don't do that much anymore regardless of the genre.

It was just funny that I received this invite right after attending Bible Class right on this very subject. My Pastor said that in his church he wouldn't have a singles ministry because it will indirectly throw people in the mind of who is single and eligible. Just because they are in the church, doesn't mean that they're the right or pre-destined one for you. In church the focus should be on Glorifying God, and serving and fulfilling the duties of the Church to bring about that praise.

I just thought his viewpoint was interesting and made alot of sense. Cause I'll admit, that I thought I might find "HIM" at church. Now my perspective is different and my outlook toward my Christian brothers is VERY different. I'll just wait on the Lord because the vision will come at its appointed time.

Thanks everyone for your responses!

Twistie74
02-06-2003, 05:14 PM
I never knew they existed!

Na
02-07-2003, 06:35 AM
Just because they are in the church, doesn't mean that they're the right or pre-destined one for you. In church the focus should be on Glorifying God, and serving and fulfilling the duties of the Church to bring about that praise.

Cause I'll admit, that I thought I might find "HIM" at church. Now my perspective is different and my outlook toward my Christian brothers is VERY different. I'll just wait on the Lord because the vision will come at its appointed time.

Ihgemini, I was invited to a Christian Singles event and to be honest didnt feel comfortable about going. What works for some is not necessarily the right thing for everyone.

elleebeme5
02-07-2003, 02:23 PM
At my church, the singles ministry is both social and spritual. Several people had Thanksgiving dinner together one year. We go to brunch after church once a quarter. We took a turn working at the Habitat House the church sponsored. We once studied Single people in the Bible. We went through a series of workshops about dating as a Christian. It was never once looked at as a dating service. To my knowledge, no one has ever dated within the group.

ihgemini
02-07-2003, 03:30 PM
Blessings,
Glad to hear that it has been a positive experience for most of you. That's not to say that the event I was invited to won't be either. I was just taken aback by the presentation from the flyer. All the same I don't think I'll attend this particular event.

Again thanks for all input! I appreciate you all responding! :D

hatdiva66
02-07-2003, 05:59 PM
I have had really positive experiences with singles ministries.. Glorified dating service.. I've heard describe them that way.. but truth of the matter is not that many men participate anyway.. so the women would be i guess dating each other... :)

Again.. what will edify some won't edify others. I've had fun with it.

Joyfulocs
02-09-2003, 07:04 PM
My church is relatively small and couldn't support an effective singles ministry. The age range is pretty wide. Also, I've spoken to some of the singles and they don't want a ministry. They feel that it would segregate them from the congregation, which makes a lot of sense.

I agree re: Michelle McKinney Hammonds books. For those of you who have real player, you might want to check MacArthur's (I can't remember his first name!) latest study on singleness and marriage. His ministry is called Grace to You and the website can be found at www.gty.org. I heard him on the radio one day and when he said, "It's ok to be single," I thought I was going to have to pull the car over! :) It was refreshing to hear somebody say that.

ihgemini
02-09-2003, 08:36 PM
Blessings,

For those of you who have real player, you might want to check MacArthur's (I can't remember his first name!) latest study on singleness and marriage. His ministry is called Grace to You and the website can be found at www.gty.org. I heard him on the radio one day and when he said, "It's ok to be single," I thought I was going to have to pull the car over! :) It was refreshing to hear somebody say that.


Just had to say Amen to that! :wink:

BlackOnyx03
02-09-2003, 11:34 PM
FYI...Some good teachings on being single are by: Bishop T.D. Jakes, Juanita Bynum-Weeks, Michelle McKinney Hammond and Bishop Eddie Long. Be blessed :lilangel:

YOU ARE SO RIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I especially recommend Juanita Bynum's "No More Sheets" and Michelle McKinney Hammond's "Secrets of an Irresistible Woman!" Check them out folks!!!!!

Joyfulocs
02-10-2003, 02:10 AM
Blessings,

For those of you who have real player, you might want to check MacArthur's (I can't remember his first name!) latest study on singleness and marriage. His ministry is called Grace to You and the website can be found at www.gty.org. I heard him on the radio one day and when he said, "It's ok to be single," I thought I was going to have to pull the car over! :) It was refreshing to hear somebody say that.


Just had to say Amen to that! :wink:

Alright nah! Ya think I wasn't cheezin' when I heard that? :wink: :wink:

ihgemini
02-10-2003, 02:45 PM
Blessings,
@BlackOnyx: I'm going to hit my library and try to find those books. I've heard of Juanita Bynum's book, but haven't heard the other author. I'll definitely give them both a read.

@Joyfulocs: For me personally I never had a problem being alone, but I do get lonesome for some quality male company. Though being single is fine, I do miss being in a marriage. I just love the stableness and continuity within the institution. But in the meantime, life will always be good with God in the front seat :wink:

Joyfulocs
02-10-2003, 09:37 PM
Blessings,

@Joyfulocs: For me personally I never had a problem being alone, but I do get lonesome for some quality male company. Though being single is fine, I do miss being in a marriage. I just love the stableness and continuity within the institution. But in the meantime, life will always be good with God in the front seat :wink:

Ninety percent of the time, I'm fine with it. It's that troublesome ten percent that gets me sometimes. But God is working it all out for my good.

Babygrl
02-19-2003, 05:55 PM
My church NEVER addresses the prepective of a grown, single person!

The old-school assumption is that married people are doing the right, thing, and a single person must be "out" there sinning. :cry: