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09-14-2014, 07:54 PM #21
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When I was referring to a culture of patriarchy it included America....But I do agree that women are valued even less and have fewer resources available to them outside of places like the U.S. I volunteered at a Crisis Centre in the Caribbean where the police department hadn't even provided a protective mirror/glass for women to identify potential perpetrators of rape/assault. So the male perpetrator would literally be staring the assaulted woman in the face as she pointed them out in a line up. Crazy! Also on an island where are you escaping to? There are only so many places for these women to seek shelter for themselves and their children. And even then, it's short term and they would eventually be found, so most would just end up going back to the abusive spouse. So yeah, in that instance, environment as well as the entrenched culture of viewing women as less than is different from the U.S. or Canada where I'm from. However, women not having enough resources to escape is not just limited to smaller/poorer nations so again, there are layers to all of this as you said. I also take your point about cases not being reported in the first place, which makes it less likely for whatever laws are in place to actually be given a chance to work.
Having said all of that, White and/or heterosexual males creating laws to supposedly protect women/people of colour is in of itself problematic. And that was/is my point. The voices of groups most vulnerable need to be heard and included at all levels of policy/law making, and the re-shaping of this culture of abuse but that is too often not the case. And I don't believe that is for lack of trying or an unwillingness on the part of the marginalized (i.e. advocacy groups/organizations). America is not exempt from this. Resources may be available and that's fantastic, but they ultimately only offer band aid solutions to a much bigger problem. I guess I just don't understand why Patriarchy can't be discussed in conjunction with all the other information available to the public regarding abuse, rape, assault etc., Like, why isn't this a part of our dialogue as observers when these cases make headlines? (That was rhetorical btw, b/c I know why *side eye*).
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09-14-2014, 10:37 PM #22
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I disagree. If people are involved, then every relationship requires boundaries. It has nothing to do with the quality of the relationship or mutual respect.
Have you every been around a couple where the husband is way out of pocket disrespecting his wife? For some reason, he thought it was okay to say certain things to his wife because she never told him upfront "by the way, I require that you always speak to me in a respectful manner at all times."
Humans, regardless of the nature of the relationship (parents, siblings, SO,etc), will always come up with some foolishness. That's what people do. It behooves everyone to let those close to you know where you personally draw the line.
I don't see any issue with having a simple 10 minute conversation were you lay out your expectations in the relationship. If you can discuss money, housekeeping, and having children, you can discuss violence in the relationship.
Some men aren't that smart. They really need to be told upfront that violence is off the table and be alerted of the consequences.No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. -Eleanor Roosevelt
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You don't see any issues, but it may be an issue with the guy because you're assuming he's a woman beater. "Some aren't that smart and need to be told." If you're having the discussion from jump, then you're also assuming he's not intelligent and a child because you're not giving him time to reveal himself. You've insulted the guy three times on day one. If this works for you and the guy hangs around kudos. However what works for me is my mutual respect spiel -- "Treat people the way you want to be treated. We are cool, but if you cross lines, you got problems. Don't start nothing, it won't be nothing." It's understood that I'm not to be played with... and if one is into games... move on. IDK maybe one encountered violence and need to have discussions on violence to be preemptive. But to a guy you're sending messages: you have or had issues (damaged), stereotyping (in which some guys may internalize), or be understanding. Two thirds won't waste their time. Before a male gets violent, disrespect precedes. I'm out at that point .....respect isn't mutual. Action speak louder than words. Eh, whatever works.
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10-27-2014, 08:25 PM #24
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Re: Janay Palmer Rice
So, some folks thought it would be cute to come up with Ray and Janay Rice halloween costumes for this year.
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Fixed the link. Apparently NP wouldn't let the "necole bishie" name in the other link get past the censors so I used a link from another site.Last edited by MommieDearest; 10-28-2014 at 02:28 AM.
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10-27-2014, 10:07 PM #25Validated and Nappified
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Re: Janay Palmer Rice
Folks are so messed up. Your link didn't work, but I viewed a white little kid imitating... dragging a black doll. The parents are sick. Between the two of them... neither has sense?
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10-28-2014, 01:27 AM #26
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Last year Treyvon was popular.
I hate Halloween. I'm serious. I know people love it and all but I don't like horror, people stay out of pocket, it's my LEAST favorite holiday by a WIDE margin. I literally can't wait for it to be over every year.
I enjoy passing out candy to kids, tho.It's Cheap to be Pank. Come to the Pank Side.
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