Young men/ Men have been watching the same relaxer ads and heard the women in their circle speak about problems associated with styling natural hair; many probably along the lines of keeping naturally kinky hair straight. They are as brainwashed as we were and very much guided by the vast media campaign that sweeps more euro-centered cultures and endeavors to promote the idea that straighter is better.

As you are transitioning, try to speak of your hair and your discoveries in a positive light. Help your bf see that this change is positive, not only for your physical appearance, but for your psychological makeup, and most likely, your wallet as well. He may also appreciate the fact that it doesn't take nearly as long for you to style your hair, and that you are not a slave to the whims of a salon stylist, who might take hours to give you a relaxer.

If he genuinely cares about you, and not just the physical, he will come around. If not, the sooner you know about it, the better. Young men are often led by their attraction to physical. The ability to appreciate all the aspects of a particular woman may come later or sadly, in the case of many, not at all.