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05-21-2012, 04:14 AM #21Active Nappturality Member
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The only thing I got out of this is that your friend is doing a bit too much.
Hair is one of those indicators on your body that can give an indication of how your overall health is doing. The same as skin, height, weight, teeth color/development, poop and piss. These are all things I recall my parents checking throughout my childhood.
I think that how you approach your child about her hair is more important.
"Let mommy check to see if keeping your hair twisted has helped it to be healthy, strong, and long?" vs "Your hair is soooo long and pretty. I'm going to take a picture of how long your hair is and show everybody because everybody looks soooo pretty when their hair is long."
See, same activity, but different message.Formally MzCuteBrownLeo
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05-21-2012, 04:30 AM #22
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And there is nothing wrong with that! There is nothing wrong with wanting long hair. And there's nothing wrong with doing a length check if that's your thing. Wanting long hair and allowing long hair to define your self worth are two different things.
I think the OP's friend needs to mind her own business. She sounds like she's jealous. Only black women get attitudes with long hair and try to play it down. If you are proud of your daughter's hair, OP, take pictures of it, do length checks, flaunt it for the world do see. Just be careful not to make your daughter feel that is the only thing she has to contribute to the world. Tell your friend to go kick rocks. Maybe her hair will grow in the process.Last edited by Micheli; 05-21-2012 at 04:39 AM.
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It's just funny that someone saw "length check" and jumped to "instill a hair complex."
ETA: What if it were a picture of your daughter losing weight? Would she have posted about you instilling body image issues? Or what if she were doing something to get clear skin? Would that be giving her a complex about skin? Sometimes checking progress is simply that. If folks are reading all kind of other stuff into it, when you didn't bring it up, then that says way more about them and whatever they have going on.Last edited by bhop13; 05-21-2012 at 05:45 AM.
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05-21-2012, 05:32 AM #25
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I can understand why your friend had that reaction. But why didn't she keep it to herself?! If she knows you, does she think that's something she has to warn you about?
I definitely care about length of my hair, for a bunch of reasons. *shrug* I would be annoyed if a friend of mine assumed the worst."I wore twists outside for the first time and the world didn't explode. Hurray." - JaeFuma
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05-21-2012, 07:50 AM #27
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Didn't get a chance to read through all the posts, but in response to your first post Suzi_Q: Rest assured, your daughter will not have a crisis over hair, my hair was just as long as Nevergiveup's daughter's until I was 12 (year of my first relaxer). I just cut my hair from BSL to APL (and yes, my goal is to grow it out but I've had some nappy drama as of late and ended up getting it cut).
Let's just say my mum misses the length and gets exited about the growth more than I do. She's so cute, I love her!
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I agree. I have no issues with positive feedback and, honestly? We as a group and culture need to get in the habit of doing it more.
I had a head of thick hair when I was a kid and having that hair helps me now as I'm just seeing how long I can grow my hair out. These memories will be positive for her most likely.
Personally, I don't see the point of a length check, but it's the OP's child and she can do what she wants.
I wouldn't have put it quite this way, but this sums it up for me. It sounds pretty harmless overall. I think the OP's friend is projecting. With hair, that doesn't surprise me either."The person who says it cannot be done should not interrupt the person doing it." - Chinese Proverb
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I was all ready to type a response, but the above sums it up right nicely.
Kudos to you, OP, for maintaining your daughter's healthy mane of natural hair. I hope it sends the unintended message to your friends list that THEIR daughters' hair can be natural & healthy, too, sans relaxer.
P.S. Yeah, your friend has her own complex. What's with the if her hair falls out comment? If her hair was 2 inches and it fell out she'd miss it. You'd miss anything you loved and used to have, i.e. eyes, toys, limbs, youth, people, money, love, fingers, jobs...Last edited by AuNappturale; 05-21-2012 at 12:35 PM.
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