I Mentioned That I Had An Recent Interview

**mj11051** · 04-19-2008, 01:45 AM

Telling me thanks for coming and she really liked me, however they chose another candidate. Then I asked her if she could give me some feedback on my interview and if there are so things I need to improve. She said maybe you shouldn't wear your hair so ethnic. I had fingercurls and I thought they looked neat and polished.

My friend who works in Corporate America told me I looked very professional. :dunno: HELP

**~GAN~** · 04-19-2008, 01:50 AM

<span style="font-family:arial">Wow....that is messed up. I can't believe she said that, but I guess I can't really be too surprised anymore. I think its crazy that our natural hair would cause such a problem in corporate america. Its not really fair IMO.</span>

**Alastri** · 04-19-2008, 01:54 AM

i wish you had a record of her saying that so you could take legal action. that pisses me off.

**crmycoco** · 04-19-2008, 01:55 AM

next time don't wear fingercurls. :dunno:

yanno, just cuz you're natural doesn't mean you can't discern between "street" hair and "corporate" hair, which does NOT mean straight.

for example, when my hair was longer I wore twists, but NEVER to a job interview. pull it in a bun, or a nice shaped fro...or something appropriate to the job. it really isn't a racial thing...more like a conservative vs liberalism vs what kind of image we got going on in this here company.

**mj11051** · 04-19-2008, 02:08 AM

i wish you had a record of her saying that so you could take legal action. that pisses me off.
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I asked her for feedback and suggestions she gave them to me. I wouldn't sue for her opinion. I just need a more professional polished hair.

I asked her because I wanted to the truth and she gave it to me off the record, she also said I had great experience but her boss was really looking for someone with hotel experience and that was in the ad.

next time don't wear fingercurls. :dunno:

yanno, just cuz you're natural doesn't mean you can't discern between "street" hair and "corporate" hair, which does NOT mean straight.

for example, when my hair was longer I wore twists, but NEVER to a job interview. pull it in a bun, or a nice shaped fro...or something appropriate to the job. it really isn't a racial thing...more like a conservative vs liberalism vs what kind of image we got going on in this here company.

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My hair is growing but still not long enough for a bun and I don't know whats appropriate anymore. This was a 5 star hotel, but I would never come in contact with customers.

**mwedzi** · 04-19-2008, 03:22 AM

I'm sorry you didn't get the job. But I'm happy she gave you honest feedback because it reminds us all of the world we live in. I don't know what would be more professional, either, frankly. Finger curls are the same as comb coils, right? I thought those usually look pretty neat. We already know braids and cornrows are too "ethnic." I'm not sure how to make "ethnic" people's hair not "ethnic." Maybe a patted down afro. Not too big, apparently that scares people.

**mj11051** · 04-19-2008, 03:32 AM

I know and that's why I stopped wearing a fro. I don't know what to do with my hair and I'm not going back to cfc.

cutenappygrl · 04-19-2008, 03:34 AM

Telling me thanks for coming and she really liked me, however they chose another candidate. Then I asked her if she could give me some feedback on my interview and if there are so things I need to improve. She said maybe you shouldn't wear your hair so ethnic. I had fingercurls and I thought they looked neat and polished.

My friend who works in Corporate America told me I looked very professional. :dunno: HELP
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OMG - that is so wrong. But i'm glad she told you what was up - you probably wouldn't want to work there anyway - they may say all kinds of crazy off the wall comments about black people while you're working there. Employers have the right to hire/fire you for any reasons other than race/gender/sexual orientation/age - so you can't sue over hair. Being in a union would be a good thing though - they can get you a job and make it difficult for you to be fired. But anyway - I have been wearing this cheap wig i got at the BSS for interviews, still haven't gotten a job though. But that's the only thing i can suggest - b/c if they don't like natural black hair - no style will be acceptable to them.

**Karibana** · 04-19-2008, 03:36 AM

Doesn't sound like you were rejected for your hair. Since you did ask for her opinion, maybe she thought she was helping you for a future interview :dunno:, I think that in her mind any do that involves you natural remaining so wouldn't be appropriate. Though I do sometimes advocate taming the 'fro for interviews, this time I say do you.

**gr2006** · 04-19-2008, 03:39 AM

no one says yt's hair looks too "ethnic" - i'm sorry yall it just pisses me off. :Angry:

at the same time i kindof get what that woman was trying to say - basically the company has a stick up their as$ so you're going to have to have one up yours too (or at least act the part).

mj.......a simple puff. slick it down a bit in the front so it lays kindof flat and neat. you can wear it shrunken or pull it out with your fingers a bit. use a nice scarf for a band or dress it up a little with a fancy comb or hair clip.