Parents love em or hate em but we can't kill em sigh. Even tho parents want the best for us since they are human it does not make their choices infallible and we need to remember that. Do what is best for you, being a parent of an adult does not mean having power over their life choices forever. They can have an opinion but that is all it is. Perhaps you need to let her know that topic is not negotiable since it causes hurt feelings. Please remember you are under no obligaton to live your life for people whether they be friend, relative or foe and not matter how well meaning they seem - why do some ofus insist on giving up our power? If we really want others to control our lives then start with me feel free to donate all your wordly good to my bank account.....